Booty

"Your booty might be bigger but I still can pull your nigga, but I don't want him..."

Booty by Erykah Badu

One thing that I've learned in my nearly 10 years in the dating world is: if things don't start on the right foot, they won't ever be right. Ever.

Not love or prayer or ignoring the problems will ever fix something that was broke to begin with.

I used to be a woman, who was predatory. Who looked for holes and gaps in other people's relationships in order to find a way in. I didn't want anything but the satisfaction of knowing I could get any man I desired.

And that bad karma followed me into most of the relationships I had. And I never understood why shit wouldn't work out for me. Because I was a good girlfriend. I cooked, cleaned, was an adventurous lover...pretty much any and everything a man wanted.

I made this personal, because I wanted to come at this topic a totally different way. It's hard to understand why women go after men who they know in their hearts they can never have. Even single men who are emotionally detached. See, we can't blame the men sometimes.

Because a lot of women want to feel validated, wanted, sexy. They want to be lusted after. They want to feel better than the other chick. I know because I was her. And was the first bitch crying about trust, and the demise of the relationship.

You can't expect things to work out for you, if you go about things in a decietful and manipulative manner. As a woman, you have to know that you possess certain powers over men. But you can't use that to fuck up other people's shit. Men are weak when it comes to women, and being a tempting seductress only messes up your own life.

You have to have respect for other women and their needs before you go and sabotauge their shit. And how could you ever trust a man who is leaving his woman for you? I'm not asking as a person who has never been on both sides of the issue. At times, I just question how lowly I once thought of my own self.