Whip Appeal

"'Cause we got a way of talking/And it's better than words/It's the strangest kind of relationship/Oh, but with us it always works"

Whip Appeal by Babyface

What more could a girl want? Actually, scratch that. Women want a lot out of relationships. They want to be fully understood. They want happiness and reciprocity. I don't need all of that out of a man. I don't need high levels of acceptance.

This doesn't mean I'm cold as ice. That's the perception I've been trying to fight since I decided I wasn't going to be as giving in relationships. Just because my love is no longer an open book, that doesn't mean I won't entertain long looks.

This is hard to explain to people. Men are a lot more emotional than they think. And older ones are looking for stability and relationships. They are looking to lock it down with a wife. The are looking to be understanding and give a woman happiness and make her feel need constantly.

That's doing too much for me.

But I want to communicate. I want to disagree and be mad without causing drama. I want to be ecstatic and excited with just cause. I want my passion to erupt and ebb and flow throughout the relationship. I just don't want a man to make a big deal about it. I want a man who understands my whip appeal.

And has whip appeal of his own.

I heard the song, Whip Appeal, made popular by Babyface, on the radio the other day. And it explained exactly the kind of relationship I am looking for. See, I do a lot of talking and explaining and schmoozing for a living. With a man, I want it to be simple.

Come home and go hard. And not just sexually. Just someone who is ready to use all their senses to experience me. And leave the drama outside the door.

In the song, Babyface says, "whip all your sweet, sad lovin on me." Even the sadness of the world. Use it and express it while loving me.

That's the kind of man I want. One with whip appeal.

Just in case you need a refresher:

The Whip Appeal video (you know you wanna click it)